Recently, I have taken on the task of bettering myself. A lot of times, I don’t really know what that means but I am starting to figure that out. My life has always been planned out, because that’s what I do, I am a planner. Well, when something happens in your life that you aren’t expecting, then what do you do?
My life revolved around a guy for the last two and a half years. I do not regret that, but I can’t help but look back on things I would have done differently. However, life doesn’t work like that. You must move on, look forward, and have no regrets because there is no changing the past. All I can do now, is learn from my mistakes and try to avoid making the same ones twice.
I think that some people are more affected by relationships than others. Initially, I was very independent, but when I started dating this guy I was smitten. I would have done anything for him, to the point where it was probably not healthy. Love changes people, not always for the better, and it is hard to admit that when it is happening to you. When investing so much into one person, it can be dangerous if they are not doing the same for you because it can all end in an instant.
When the relationship ended after two and a half years I wasn’t quite sure what I was supposed to do with myself. There was a lot of moping, crying, self pity, and just darkness. I think most people who have their heartbroken by their first love can relate to this. However, how long is it acceptable to act like this? How long is it acceptable to negative about love? That is a question I would love for someone to answer for me. I have not become completely cynical to where I hate seeing other couples happy, but when you go through a breakup, it is hard not to become more critical about finding a happy ending.
I have learned this though, and I would like to share it with all of you, that eventually you will get past it. It has been half a year since and I already can tell that my life is changing for the better, in ways I wouldn’t have dreamed. I have met numerous amounts of new people and am learning that I have so much to offer that will be appreciated by someone else in time. My challenge for anyone in this same position is to take this opportunity to better yourself as well. There is someone out there that will be the one, and there is no use in dwelling on someone who wasn’t.
Take the time to hang out with the friends that you have lost touch with, make new friends, and invest time in yourself. Don’t stress about things that are out of your control, and you’ll find yourself thinking about the past less and less.
Something to think about…